Reflections on education

This week is the first week of school for kids in our area.  On facebook, I see "first day of school" pictures flood my news feed.  It's an exciting time of the year - full of new possibilities.

My kids, however, are not doing school this week (ha!).  We've actually been schooling for about 7 weeks already, but this week the girls are gone visiting grandparents.

This is the longest they've been away from me (and Jared).  They've been gone since Friday and won't be back until tomorrow (Thursday).  I miss them terribly.  The house feels empty.  I kind of feel like I don't know what I should be doing with myself.

I've gotten some things done:  rest, which is what has been prescribed by my mom and my mother-in-law, before the baby comes; preparation of freezer meals before the baby comes; a little bit of cleaning (I haven't really been motivated to "nest" yet...I wonder if I will be with only a few weeks left).

But mostly I'm resting and taking advantage of the quiet, which is allowing me time to do plenty of reading and thinking and reflecting.

Anyway, back to school.  What I've been reading about and thinking about the most right now has to do with all these precious kiddos starting the new school year, as well as my own endeavor at educating my children.

In addition to reading, I've watched some wonderful, insightful videos over at the Circe Institute website.  If you're not familiar, it's a site dedicated to educating parents and teachers about classical education - what it is and how to implement it.  By the way, Charlotte Mason's methods are very much in line with classical education (from what I've gathered, but I am no expert).

Right now I'm working my way through the video series "Teaching from a State of Rest" - a lecture given by the Circe Institute president, Andrew Kern.  You can find the videos here - you'll have to scroll down.

Even if you're not a homeschooler, I highly, highly recommend any of his videos or podcasts, especially if you're a Christian.

Anyway, I thought I would share a few of my notes and reflections about this particular video series because it has really convicted me about my children's education, and just raising them in general.

Kern says,

"We are created to be priests, to offer up the creation to God, and thereby bless it.  We live in a broken and fallen world which is under a curse, and the only hope it has of being delivered from that curse is the goodness and grace of God.  And He has chosen, in His humility, to use us...those who believe in and claim the name of Christ, to bring His blessing...that water of life, to the world."

This is the purpose of education, he says - to take possession of the world and bless it, instead of letting the world possess us.  That's what happened to Adam way back in Genesis.  God gave him dominion over the world, but by partaking of the one tree God forbid, Adam let the world possess him.

When we think of education in this light, it makes us rethink how we teach, what we teach, why we teach, and how we assess what we teach.  It also makes us rethink who our boss is - the world and its standards?  Or God?

Kern references 1 Corinthians 3:18-20 (but invites those who are concerned with the education of their children to study chapters 1-3):

"Let no one deceive himself.  If anyone among you seems to be wise in this age, let him become a fool that he may become wise.  For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God.  For it is written, 'He catches the wise in their own craftiness', and again, 'The Lord knows the thoughts of the wise, that they are futile.'"

Maybe some of us think that this has nothing to do with modern education because our spiritual life is a totally separate thing.  Here's a quote that struck me, taken from the book When Children Love to Learn by Elaine Cooper:

"'...we hold that all education is divine, that every good gift of knowledge and insight comes from above, that the Lord the Holy Spirit is the supreme educator of mankind, and that the culmination of all education (which may at the same time be reached by a little child) is that personal knowledge of and intimacy with God in which our being finds its fullest perfection.'" (p.101)

This is actually a quotation from Charlotte Mason, but I didn't write down from which of her volumes it came.

If we are Christians, then we do not believe or claim that there is such a thing as a "Christian" or "religious" education.  Because, Miss Mason points out, that would be implying the possibility of a secular education, apart from a "religious" education.  But, if we believe that all education comes from God, then there is just education - no secular, no religious, just education.

So there is a true education - true knowledge - that comes from above.

"...that their hearts may be encouraged, being knit together in love, and attaining to all riches of the full assurance of understanding, to the knowledge of the mystery of God, both of the Father and of Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge."  (Colossians 2:2,3) 

And God

"desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth." (1 Timothy 2:4) 

Education is, at its essence, a spiritual thing.  It is about the pursuit of the truth - the cultivation of wisdom and virtue in our children.  Because we are, and our children are, created in the image of God and "predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son." (Romans 8:29)

Kern points out that modern education is only concerned with the practical, however.  Our culture does not believe in children because we do not believe in humans.  We don't believe in humans because we don't believe in Christ, who is the model human.  He came to the earth to show us what it really means to be human; what true human nature really is.  True human nature is embodied in the person of Christ.  But, because society does not believe in Christ, we do not believe in true human nature, therefore we do not cultivate it in our children.

We are too concerned with the practical outcomes of education, not the pursuit of truth.  We are too concerned with memorizing the facts and information that we are taught, so that we can get good test scores, so that we can compete with the rest of the world.  We are too concerned with success measured by the world's standards - a good job, money, an ability to live comfortably, respect from those around us.

We are not just too concerned, we are too worried about it all.

"'But seek the kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added to you.  Do not fear, little flock, for it is your father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom.'" (Luke 12:31-32)

Continuing in 1 Corinthians 3:

"Therefore let no one boast in men.  For all things are yours:  whether Paul or Apollos or Cephas, or the world or life or death, or things present or things to come - all are yours.  And you are Christ's and Christ is God's." (v.21-23)

In Christ, everything is ours.  So there's no need to worry about the world's standards of success.

But, as parents, we need to be educated ourselves.  If we really believe that education should be the pursuit of truth and the cultivation of true human nature in our children, then we must be aware of how to do that.

Summarizing Charlotte Mason's words in Home Education, page 42, we cannot rely on prayer alone to ensure that our children will grow up to be honest, good, virtuous human beings.  We must be intelligent and find out ways of actively bringing those characteristics about in our children.  We must be aware of the best ways to present that which is good, true, and beautiful to our children.

We cannot just trust the system.

Wednesdays with Words - imperfection

I finished Stepping Heavenward by Elizabeth Prentiss sometime last week.  There were so many wonderful words and thoughts in this book, but there were times when I just didn't want to stop reading in order to write out a long paragraph, so I would bookmark the page, keep reading, bookmark another page, keep reading, bookmark another page, and so on and so forth.  Now I have about 25 bookmarked pages and am going back through, rereading and/or writing down those many, many quotes.

Here is one:

"I have learned at last not to despise the day of small things, to cherish the tenderest blossom, and to expect my dear ones to be imperfect before they become perfect Christians." 

A page or two later:

"My poor, dear, lovable, loving boy!  He has all his mother's trials and struggles to contend with; but what matter it if they bring him the same peace?"

The main thing that struck me in these passages was the main character's attitude toward her children.  She understood that her children must be "imperfect before they become perfect Christians."  We know, as parents, that we have the labor-intensive task of raising our children, teaching them right from wrong and to love the Lord and trust in Him.  But we can't expect them to be perfect and always make the right decision.  They are still just children - imperfect, immature children.  And they will be for a long time.  They have much to learn and will their whole lives.  But in order to learn, they must start at the bottom; as imperfect creatures to be built up.

(By the way, this applies to us just as much, don't you think?  Isn't this life a continual journey learning how to live for God and His glory?)

The second quote makes me think of my second daughter.  She can be pretty quick-tempered - like me.  Oh how I've prayed that she wouldn't have to deal with that like I have.  How I've prayed that she will learn to control herself and avoid the anguish that ensues from the lack thereof.  "But what matter it if they bring {her} the same peace?"  (Not saying I've reached that peace yet, by the way, but I feel that I'm somewhat on my way.)

God uses our weaknesses to build us up, does He not?  In our weaknesses we learn to depend on and trust in Him; to fall at His feet and cry out for His strength and love and forgiveness.  We learn that in Him alone is peace.  How else can He pick us up unless we fall?

I will still pray that my children overcome their weaknesses, and that God will give me the ability to raise them and teach them what is most important.  But most of all, I will pray that my children will learn to fully and completely love Him, trust Him, listen to Him, and allow Him to pick them up every time they fall.

And I will trust that He will give them peace.

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Mother culture convictions

Last week I posted about some of my mother culture goals for this year.  

Well.

I don't know how many times I have written something on this blog, hit publish, and then conviction comes around and hits me in the face.

First, though, let me explain what mother culture is to those who aren't familiar with that term.  Mother culture refers to the growth of a mother as an individual, outside of motherhood and the many duties of being a wife and keeping the home.  Some activities suggested for mother culture are reading good books, taking walks, drawing - basically pursuing interests.

But I must ask myself a question.  What kind of growth am I looking for?  I think we should all ask that question of ourselves - get down to the nitty gritty.  What is it all for?  Am I looking for growth just for the sake of growth?  To become knowledgeable about life?  To feel worthwhile?

Not long after I wrote the above post, I felt...selfish.  Mostly about the reading part.  I kept asking myself, Why?  Why do I need to read so many books?  Why do I need to join a book discussion?  I'm not saying there's anything wrong with those things.  God gave us this life.  He gave people a talent for creativity and producing things for us to enjoy - like books.  And He wants us to enjoy our lives, which includes enjoying what other people have to offer us.

I like to read; it's enjoyable.  A good book is a pleasure.

But a good book can also be a distraction.  So can spending the time to draw and write in a nature journal.  Or blog.  (ahem.)

I came across this quote the other day from the book Stepping Heavenward by Elizabeth Prentiss:  "All my pleasures are innocent ones...But these things distract me; they absorb me; they make religious duties irksome."

Life is so full of distractions, we all know this.  And when we choose to pursue interests or make goals and then take the steps to carry out those things, we must always stop to consider our motives.

What are my motives?

As a Christian, my desire is to
Draw close to God.
Grow in Christ and His holiness.
Lead my children to Christ.
Set a good example for my children.
Serve my husband.
Love.

I have a ways to go; most of us do.  It is a life long journey, I'm sure.

I do like to read.  I like to blog - it's a way for me to reflect and to share.  And those things are not sins, unless...unless they become distractions; unless they overtake me or consume me; unless they are for all the wrong reasons; unless they cause me to be continually diverted from Christ, from prayer, from seeking Him.

I must be so very careful, because it is so very easy to fall away.  It is so easy to get tangled up in and focus all of my attention on these distractions, and...forget.

So I must pray, always, that my motives are pure.

I must pray, always, that God will lead me in His wisdom and sanctify me.

And I must believe with all my heart that God will do these things that I ask.

Yes, my motive is to grow, like mother culture encourages.  But I must choose wisely - what to read, when to read, what to do, when to do.  Because my motive is to grow in Christ.

Why Go To Church?

Since I wrote this post, my view on church has changed a bit, through much reading, thinking, and praying.  I hope to share these views sometime in the future, though I don't know when.  In the meantime, you are welcome to read this post and comment. Thank you!

There is a big movement right now of people leaving church.  Not because they have lost their faith in Jesus, but because they have lost their faith in the church.  These people are pointing out some very interesting things to think about when it comes to our attending church each Sunday.  They point out that most Christians today seem to think our main Christian “duty” is to attend church.  They point out that church is meaningless the way it is ran today; it’s too formal with all of the traditions.  And I think I agree with some of what they say. 

After I came across this movement, I began to question going to church as well.  And now that it’s been on my mind for several weeks, I think maybe I’ve pinpointed what bothers me about it.